I think some people might argue how technically being a ''grown adult'' doesn't always mean much, when it comes to actual maturity, savviness, confidence etc.
That's also putting aside the extra dimension in Sue's case, of her being trans.
Like I said though, we can probably take all of this drama with a grain of salt, heck, I'm not even 100 % sure of it myself.
I have seen some other stuff on reddit regarding various trans performers and their experience with NM.
Rightly or wrongly, the impression out there that people have about NM is that she is bad news for newbies/fresh talent to the industry.
With all that said, it won't stop me watching/enjoying any content that NM puts out.
I'm not that invested in their private lives that I will ex-communicate her from my pr0n library, lol.